Are You Living With a Phobia and Feel That It Will Be With You Forever?


According to Wikipedia “a phobia is a type of anxiety disorder, usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation in which the sufferer commits to great lengths in avoiding, typically disproportional to the actual danger posed, often being recognized as irrational”.

There are a number of common phobias such as closed-in places, heights, driving, flying, insects, snakes, and needles. Having said that, there is a long list of phobias that show us that we can be afraid of almost anything. Often phobias develop in childhood, but they can also develop later in life.

Generally, people with phobias realize that the phobia is irrational, but can’t control that feeling of being afraid. Just thinking about the feared object or situation may make the person feel anxious, the heart beat goes up, they feel dizzy, uncomfortable, want to cry or feel faint. When being exposed to the stimulus that causes the phobia, people feel overwhelmed and have a sense of terror.

The feeling is so terrible that one can go to great lengths to avoid it, often inconvenience one self or change a lifestyle. Craig, who suffered from claustrophobia, for example, didn’t want to fly in an airplane and couldn’t visit his daughter who lived in England. He hadn’t seen her for a number of years and now she was getting married. His phobia was so strong that he couldn’t get himself to book a ticket to go and see her. “I used to be able to fly. My wife had to stand outside the toilet door in the plane, as I felt so anxious in this confined space that I couldn’t close the door. This feeling of not wanting to fly got worse and worse and I decided not to fly any more. I realized I had to do something about this when my daughter wanted to get married. I decided that this phobia wouldn’t ruin my daughter’s wedding day.”

Understanding the phobia is the first step to overcoming it and getting help.

There is a difference between having fear in a situation that is dangerous and having fear without actually being in danger. Fear is a normal response that can either protect or hinder us in life. If we are in a dangerous situation it serves as a protective purpose, activating the automatic “fight-or-flight” response. With our bodies and minds alert and ready for action, we are able to respond quickly, in a more narrowly focused way and have a chance to protect ourselves.

However, in case of phobias the threat is greatly exaggerated or even non-existent. For example, it is only natural to be afraid of a big, aggressive looking dog in front of you, but it is not so rational to be terrified of a friendly poodle on a leash, as you might be if you have a phobia of dogs.

There are different signs to look out for when determining if you have a phobia:

Physical signs and symptoms

Difficulty breathing
Fast heart
Chest pain or tightness
Trembling or shaking
Sweating or feeling cold
Tingling sensation
Feeling dizzy

Emotional signs and symptoms

Feeling overwhelmed, anxious or panicky
Needing to escape
Know that the feeling is not logic
Feeling as if you are dying
Feeling out of control and powerless
Feeling “unreal” or detached from yourself

It’s important to know that phobias are common and that many people suffer from different phobias. Having a phobia doesn’t mean that you have to live with it for the rest of your life! It is nice to know that phobias are highly treatable and often clients only have to come for three to four sessions to overcome the phobia.

Lynn who had a phobia of holes (trypophobia) explained that she has had a phobia of insects as a child and developed this “new” phobia in the last years. She wasn’t able to look at honeycombs, dried flowers with holes, anthills or any other objects that have holes. Often she wasn’t able to go out into nature or even go on Facebook as she was scared to come across an “unsightly looking object”. “I thought I would never overcome my phobias. It just seemed too hard. My heart started racing, I felt faint and just wanted to run away when seeing something with holes. I felt ashamed and debilitated of my reactions as others couldn’t understand it. ”

Lynn and Craig decided to give hypnotherapy a try. After explaining their feelings and reactions in detail, they were hypnotized and shown that they were able to overcome their fears in a gentle way. Hypnotherapy, together with slow desensitization techniques helped them to overcome their fears quickly and effectively. Each one only needed four sessions and they were “phobia free”.

” I was able to fly and see my daughter in the UK. It was amazing to be able to use the toilet in the plane on my own. My wife didn’t have to stand in front of the door once. When we were overseas we even went on an over-night boat trip where we had to sleep in a small room on the ship. I managed everything perfectly fine. I cannot believe that I lived with this phobia for so long and never did anything about it” Craig said in one of his follow up sessions.

Lynn is overjoyed that she is not scared to go out into nature or visit other people as she does not have to fear coming across unsightly objects any more. “I feel free, I stay in control in any given situation and don’t have to worry about going out or surfing net. I learned that one can overcome anxiety or fear, no matter how out of control it feels.”

Remember, it is fairly easy to treat phobias. There are a number of different therapies that you can choose from- so don’t let your phobia rule your life! Make the first step and join many of my clients who are now leading a happy, in control and calm life.

I am a registered educational and sport psychologist who has been working with children and adults for the past 18 years. I have lectured and taught children and adults at school, college and university level. After having studied Human Movement Science, Biokinetics, Psychology, Hypnotherapy and Neurofeedback / Brain Training, I have worked in hospitals, a crisis center and private practice where I have helped many people who suffer from anxiety, depression, stress, insomnia, eating disorders, concentration problems, ADD/ADHD, people who needed to stop smoking, lose weight and reduce phobias. Furthermore, I have helped many athletes to increase their sporting performance, achieving great success.

Holistic Medicine As Compared With Other Medical Practices


Holistic medicine is health care that comprises all the aspects of one’ s personality to obtain the optimum state of wellness. It encompasses the process of looking into the wholeness of the person including nutritional, physical, environmental, spiritual, lifestyle and social values. Holistic medicine includes virtually all treatments and diagnosis known to achieve balance in personality. It upholds the responsibility of educating one’s self to attain the ideal over-all health and well being.

Holistic medicine and Alternative Medicine

Alternative medicine is commonly associated with holistic medicine. By definition, alternative medicine is the medical techniques that are usually not accepted or practiced by conventional medical practitioners. Most alternative medicines are founded to have rooted on unscientific, untested and untraditional principles. Often, these forms of medicine are closely associated with metaphysical components and anti-scientific stands.

Many of these techniques don’t normally have pharmaceutical values like the acupuncture, herbalism, Reiki, homeopathy and the likes. Yet the alternative medicine may also be used in experimental non-drug and drug techniques that are not yet accepted in the medical circles. The future of alternative medicine holds on the potentiality of transforming the “alternative medicine” into conventional medicine since it is now becoming widely appreciated and practiced by medical doctors. In fact, complementary medicine is the term used for alternative medicine practiced in combination with conventional medicine.

Due to these changes in view of the alternative medicine, holistic medicine has become a more preferable option among those who are quite doubtful of the alternative medicine.

Alternative medicine may appeal to metaphysical beliefs and so does the holistic medicine but on milder and more scientifically based approach. Yet the knowledge applied in holistic medicine still cannot hide the fact that it tends to cling to non-scientific knowledge.

Simply put holistic medicine claims to cure and treat the whole person. Holistic medicine stresses out the unification of the mind and the physical body. Holistic medicine practitioners give credence to the belief the man is not a pure physical body with systems and parts that encompass it. Man is also a spiritual being that requires spiritual healing. Holistic medicine concerns itself to the belief of the connection between the spirit and emotions and mind.

The gap between holistic medicine and alternative medicine is closed by the common practice of not using drug treatments and surgeries. They usually employ meditation, herbs, prayers, vitamins and minerals, as well as exotic diets in treating certain ailments.

Holistic Medicine and Conventional Medicine

Allopathy or conventional medicine defines individual health as the non-occurrence of diseases, which appeals to be a negative approach in defining the condition. Holistic medicine on the other hand concerns itself on a person’s absolute state of physical, social, mental and spiritual well-being.

As based on the definition given (that is commonly used among medical practitioners), orthodox medicine remains to deal with one’s susceptibility to diseases instead of the wellness as opposed by holistic medicine. Based on common observations, conventional medicine typically doesn’t apply to healthy individuals. While holistic medicine focuses on the quality of living practiced by people. Sick people normally don’t seek medical attention not until the symptoms of the disease/s are obvious. Thus, there is too little preventive treatment against sickness.

There are great differences between holistic medicine and the conventional type both in the diagnosis and treatments. Most of which are scientifically based. In oppose to this stand, diagnosis in holistic treatment are conceived through the manifestations of body imbalance. These are determined through certain procedures distinctive only to holistic medicine and other related medicinal practices.

Why We Don’t Meditate: And How We Can Change This


Let’s explore why we don’t meditate twice a day? Some of us do, but many of us don’t meditate when we should. People come home after a long, hard day of work, finish their day and fall into bed without meditating. There’s simply ‘no time’ for meditation. But why don’t we find the time? There is so much proof of why meditation is good for you. If you were to visit some of the healthiest people on the planet you will be hard pressed to find someone who doesn’t believe in, attest to, and practice meditation. So if so many people expound in the benefits of meditation, why don’t we meditate?

There may be many, many reasons why we don’t meditate; but I think I can boil it down to two really specific things that keep us from meditating. I was exposed to meditation when I was 19 years old. I was studying psychology as an undergraduate in college and exploring the work of Herbert Benson out of Harvard. Herbert Benson really researched the benefits, physiologically, of meditation. I started meditating right away but there were gaps, breaks in my meditation. Why? Though I was very impressed with Dr. Benson’s work, I was 19 years old and things like blood pressure and medical benefits weren’t really an issue for me at that time. Dr. Benson talked a lot about the physiological effects that meditation had on your body. I was 19 and quite healthy. I wasn’t concerned yet about my blood pressure or the medical benefits of meditation because I wasn’t feeling any health problems at that time. I enjoyed meditation; I enjoyed relaxing and feeling very peaceful. Sometimes days, even weeks would go by without me meditating. Why? This is really the first reason many of us don’t meditate. We really need a good reason to do something. We need a reason to meditate. If we’re going to spend a half an hour a day doing something we need to know what we’re doing really changes us or adds to our overall happiness. Our lives are busy and our time is precious so we don’t want to ‘waste’ it doing something that we don’t know for sure is beneficial. We may think “yes, this makes me feel nice and relaxed but it doesn’t’ really change me or add to my overall happiness.” What changed for me is that many years later I met people who I felt were very deep, very healthy, very emotionally and spiritually mature people. What I learned about them, pretty much across the board, was that they meditated. They attested to meditation, they practiced meditation and they encouraged me to meditate. Because I really love growth, once I really understood how important meditation was to my own personal growth I started to meditate regularly. Once I started meditating regularly I saw the change within me. I began to change, radically change, and people around me noticed it too.

So the first thing that keeps us from meditating is that we really need a reason to meditate. As humans, we vacillate between two poles. At one end there is immediate gratification. “I’m tired, it was a long day and I’m going to have myself a few beers to relax.” Or “When I go to Vegas I always have such a great time, even though I come back exhausted. It sure feels great while I’m there, so I go.” So the first thing we do is look for something pleasurable. We want to feel good. Meditation can address this because once you start meditating on a regular basis you will begin to feel good. However, meditation takes time to work. You have to stick with it before you begin to really feel the deep affects of it. It will be better than having a few beers or going to Vegas, but it takes time.

So the second aspect that affects our behavior is our goals. As a profession in general, surgeons make more money than any other profession out there. But, they have to go to college for four years, and do very well. Then they have to go to medical school for another four years and do very well. Then they go off to do a residency for anywhere from five to seven years, working sometimes 100 hours a week. So why would they do this? They do this because of their goals. They realize that in the end they will be working in a very lucrative profession and have a very secure job. So besides the immediate effects of mediation we also need a deep, heartfelt reason as to why we are going to meditate day after day, week after week, year after year. For me this reason came from learning from others; from people who taught me that meditation is truly the number one change agent on the planet. If you want to grow, if you want to wake up and have a beautiful life then meditation is the key factor to this. But you have to believe it at the core, because like the surgeons going through medical school can be hard sometimes; meditation can be hard sometimes. It’s not a bad experience but sometimes we’re just too tired, too busy to take the time to meditate. Until we reach a point where meditation really, really is something we are invested in and believe that it will radically change our lives for the better, we’re probably not going to meditate on a regular basis. There are just too many things out there that are calling for our attention. Telling us to come do this, come do that, this is more important. I can absolutely guarantee you that meditation is truly the most important thing you can do in your life for creating a beautiful, important, wonderful life. But until you believe this, other things will get in the way and distract you. What you can do is to find someone that can really motivate you to meditate. I would love to be this person to you, but I also know that I cannot be all things to all people. Some of us are research minded; we want to see the facts. If that’s you, then there are many research articles out there, on my website and in my podcasts even, which explain how beneficial meditation is to you. Over the years I’ve seen many hardcore professionals change their meditative ways drastically after attending a retreat with my partner and me. That’s why retreats are very helpful in this sense. Or perhaps you can find a local group near your home to meditate with others. Sometimes, it’s a lot like an exercise class; we are more inspired to attend regularly if there are others there to meditate with us.

So there are really two main reasons why we don’t meditate. One is that at first it may not give us enough pleasure to keep our attention. My response to that is to be patient, it will bring you pleasure if you hang in there. It’s similar to exercise, at first we don’t realize how good the exercise makes us feel until we’ve started doing it regularly and then our bodies actually crave that exercise. Your mind reacts in the same way. As you meditate regularly your mind too will crave those meditative states. It will grow to be the highlight of your day.

The second thing that often keeps us from meditating is that we don’t really believe that it’s good for us. So if you want to meditate, make sure you’re connected with someone or something that drives it deep down inside of you that you need to meditate, meditation is really good for you. Continue to listen to my podcasts online, meditate regularly, find someone or something that inspires you to continue to meditate and you will realize as time goes on that you feel the effects of the meditation. That person, that story, that connection that makes you realize the importance of meditation will also make you realize that meditation is a key part to your life.

Natural Skin Care For Men is What You Need to Achieve That Youthful Appearance You Crave

Category:Mens Issues

I was pleasantly surprised when looking around for skin care for men to find that at long last there are products being manufactured with men’s skin specifically in mind. Men who suffered from bad skin had a hard time finding products that could sooth and heal the skin disorders. However thanks to one particular skin care company, all that has changed.

Skin care for me should be suited for men issues. Men suffer from oily skin sun burnt skin because they spend a lot of time outdoors. Men also suffer from the breakdown of collagen and elastin due to free radical activities. If you do not eat healthy you will find you skin looking prematurely old and wrinkled. Smoking too adversely affects your skin. Try quitting or smoke less cigarettes if you want to see an improvement in the appearance of your skin.

Using sun screen when you have to be in the sun is highly recommended. You want to look for a sunscreen of SPF 15 or higher. Wear wide-rimmed hat and sun glasses to protect your eyes and the rest of your face. And if you have to spend a long time in the sun re-apply sunscreen every 2-3 hours.

Another big problem most men deal with is shaving. Shaving leads to cuts and bruises. You want to find a face cream or lotion that can work as an astringent and also provide you with well needed antioxidant to protect your skin. Witch Hazel is great in this regard. It heals cut and bruises caused from shaving and help to soothe and heal the skin.

As men age they experience wrinkles, fine lines and sagging skin. All this is caused by loss of collagen and elastin and because your body is at the mercy of free radicals you need to help restore these two vital proteins. The higher level of collagen and elastin and the more antioxidants you supply your body with will give it the ammunition to fight free radicals and help restore you skin to health again.

Cynergy TK is known to naturally restore collagen and elastin in your skin, it also helps to feed your body with antioxidants. A powerful antioxidant is Phytessence Wakame, it also protects the skin from environmental factors such as pollution, wind, sun and cold weather conditions.

Today’s men are fortunate, they no longer have to resort to using their wives or girlfriend’s skin care products anymore. They can now search and find products made specifically for their skin with the right natural ingredients that will soothe and heal their skin making it firm, toned and ravishing once again. You will be attracting the opposite sex like bees to honey.

50 Percent US Kids With Mental Health Conditions Remain Untreated, Claims Study

Category:Mental Health

Half of the children in the United States suffering from any kind of mental disorder remain untreated, revealed a recently published study. The researchers analyzed data gathered from the 2016 National Survey of Children’s Health, a nationwide survey administered to the parents of young adolescents.

The findings revealed that out of the 46.6 million youngsters in the age group of 6 to 18 years, whose parents filled the survey, around 7.7 million teens were suffering from at least one type of mental health issue like anxiety, depression, or attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Also, a year before this survey was conducted, only half of these children received counselling or any kind of treatment offered by a mental health provider.

The survey further showed that the percentage of young teens diagnosed with a mental health disorder and not receiving any treatment from a provider fluctuated extensively between 72.2 percent in North Carolina and 29.5 percent in the District of Columbia. The findings featured in the journal JAMA Pediatrics in February 2019.

What do child and adolescent psychiatrists have to say?

Co- author Mark Peterson, an associate professor at the Michigan University (Medicine) said that he pondered upon the conditions affecting children at a young age in a comprehensive manner. But he was shocked to see such a high percentage of young teens not receiving mental health treatment in the U.S.

However, child psychiatrists did not seem too surprised with the results. Dr. Barbara Robles-Ramamurthy, an adolescent and child psychiatrist at the Long School of Medicine at the University of Texas (UT) Health Science Center, San Antonio, said that unfortunately, this was not news to her. In fact, she was well-versed with the fact that the percentage of young teens with mental illness who remained untreated in the U.S. was quite high.

Explaining further, Dr. Jennifer Mautone, a consulting psychiatrist at the Department of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, said that the families and the children with mental illness face a number of challenges when it came to accessing mental health treatment services, thus contributing to the high rates of not receiving treatment.

Extreme dearth of mental health providers

The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP) revealed that the United States was facing an extreme dearth of practicing child and adolescent psychiatrists. According to the available data, there were fewer than 17 health care providers per 100,000 teenagers.

This indicates that a lot of families needed to wait long to receive treatment, which deteriorated the primary mental health condition of the affected child. Also the qualified providers available faced significant challenges while interacting with other existing systems responsible for the care of these children. Some of these systems included the health care, education, child care, and the adolescent judicial system. All these systems were supposed to take care of the child, but none of them interacted with each other, resulting in half-hearted care.

A ray of hope

A lot of pediatric health systems have started integrating mental health services into their practice, to promote timely intervention of mental health services to kids. Even the mental health providers, by integrating themselves with the pediatricians, leverage the already prevalent trust factor of patients and are able to reach out to families in a familiar setting. One such program was the Healthy Minds, Healthy Kids Initiative at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, headed by Dr. Mautone.

In the last two years, this initiative managed to cater to more than 2,500 patients. Robles-Ramamurthy, considered this as a positive breakthrough. Yet there is a lot more to be achieved, she feels. A lot of families still consider the presence of a mental illness in their family as a personal failure and are scared of addressing them because of the fear of the associated stigma. The work towards destigmatizing mental illnesses has really started only a decade back. Another hurdle that the parents face is insurance cover. Some of the teens are covered, while others are not covered adequately.

Teen mental health treatment at ADEONA Healthcare

Mental illnesses, when untreated in young adolescents, pose serious threats to the community, including unemployment, poor performance in school and life in general, and high suicide rates. At ADEONA Healthcare of Rancho San Diego, adolescents aged 12 to 17 receive comprehensive behavioral treatment programs for mental disorders and related issues. The facility offers a combination of individual and group therapies crucial for the successful treatment and recovery from mental disorders.